Every culture and society has a proper way of saying goodbye to a loved one who has passed away. This is the proper and appropriate way for their community to lay their loved one’s remains to rest while honouring their life and memory.
What is the definition of a traditional burial? What are the characteristics of a non-traditional burial? Is it incorrect to opt for a non-traditional burial? How do you know which is the best option for you?
When it comes to planning end-of-life events, there are a lot of things to think about. You’ll want to take into account your family’s religious beliefs or practises, work within your budget, and respect your loved one’s final wishes.
The best way to do this is to learn about the different burial options available to you. We’ve compiled a list of all the burial options available, ranging from the traditional to the outlandish. You can make an informed decision about planning a burial with the help of our helpful summary.
Planning ahead for burial
Choosing a cemetery
Traditional vs non-traditional burials
Burial services (aka graveside service)
Caskets, headstones, & other accessories
It takes more than just showing up at the funeral home to plan a burial. There are some choices to be made.
Let’s take the case of someone who hasn’t made any preparations for their death. Hopefully, you will be aware of your loved one’s wishes; if they did not make their wishes known, the legal next of kin will have to make the decisions. This can be extremely challenging!
So, our recommendation to you is to plan ahead.
If it’s too late for your loved one, please continue reading, and we’ll do our best to assist you. At the same time, we hope you will think about these things as you make your final arrangements. Make a list of what you would want for yourself and share it with your family.
Outside the specific burial choices, the biggest factors in this process will be 1) choosing a funeral home, and 2) selecting a cemetery. Let’s take a quick look at those before exploring burial options.
Pick a Cemetery
Make a list of the questions you want to ask. Do this before your initial call. Sometimes when you get into the conversation, you may forget what you wanted to ask, so write down your questions. Yes, they will ask you lots of questions and might even cover everything you wanted to know. However, it doesn’t hurt to be as prepared as possible.
Call for pricing. You will need the grave cost plus the fee for the opening and closing of the grave. Be sure to ask, “Is this the full, final price? Are there any other fees or taxes?”
Ask about a vault or grave liner. Some cemeteries don’t require a vault or liner. However, if they do require either one of these, it is another expense that will range from £1000 and up.
There are several plot sizes and burial/entombment options. Do you want to purchase a single plot, double plot, or family plot? Can you choose the location of the plot? What about burial in a mausoleum or crypt? Most cemeteries offer these choices, but not all. Or perhaps the specific options for each type are limited. Be sure to ask for what you want.
Consider green or natural options. Does this cemetery allow natural burials? If you want a green burial, you MUST find a cemetery that allows this type of burial. Learn more here.
Consider the marker you want. What type of headstones do they allow? Some cemeteries only allow flat markers. Did you want an upright headstone or a sculpted monument?
There are many burial options and accessories. The type of burial you select is a keenly personal decision. There isn’t a right or wrong choice, only the best choice for you and your loved one.
Like all major decisions, you should weigh your options thoroughly. The list below is sure to help you make an informed decision.
1. Ground Burial
When people say “traditional burial”, they usually mean ground burial. This is where the body is placed into a casket which is then buried in the earth.
Most cemeteries also require that you also purchase a burial vault or grave liner. Made of concrete or fibreglass, vaults and grave liners keep the ground from collapsing on top of the casket.
What you need for ground burial:
- Choose a cemetery
- Purchase a plot
- Casket, protective vault, and marker
A ground burial can include a full body and a cremation urn in one plot. Be sure to discuss this with your funeral director, but with the rising popularity of cremation, it is very common for an urn to be buried in the same plot as a previous full-body ground burial. (We’ll talk more about cremation and burial below.)
You can purchase a single plot, where only one casket can be buried. You will also have the option of a double plot; this could mean burying family members side by side or, in some instances, one casket on top of the other.
You might even decide to purchase a family plot. A family plot is a space that is large enough for multiple family members.
2. Above-Ground Burial
Perhaps you don’t like the idea of interring your loved one underground. There is another alternative for you, and there is more than one type of above-ground burial option. There are indoor and outdoor mausoleums, as well as lawn crypts.
A mausoleum is a building made to house a casket. There are different types of mausoleums in which to place your loved one.
- Private Mausoleum. This is a standalone building that is reserved for you and your family. There are benefits to having a family-owned mausoleum. It should be comforting to know that your final resting place will be near your family members. A private mausoleum can hold from two to multiple decedents.
- Community Mausoleum. This building is larger than a private mausoleum. It houses the remains of those who purchase space to be interred in it. An indoor community mausoleum is a climate-controlled building. You can choose the location and level of the burial chamber you’d like to purchase.
- Outdoor Mausoleum. Also called a garden mausoleum, this is a structure with vaults visible on the outside of the structure. Sometimes this is the exterior wall of a building or mausoleum, other times it is a standalone structure with the interior or covered part exposed as well (like a gazebo). Each vault is still completely secured with the casket protected inside, but the cover to the vault is visible out of doors.
For photos, examples and more information, take a look at some mausoleums here.
A lawn crypt is basically an underground mausoleum. It is also called a garden crypt.
A lawn crypt is a pre-installed concrete burial chamber used to hold a casket. The intention is to protect the casket from the elements so that it remains dry and clean. The crypt acts as a vault and ensures the protection of the casket. It protects the cemetery grounds as well.
In both traditional burial and a lawn crypt burial, the casket is placed below ground level. With traditional burial, the casket is placed in a vault that is slightly larger than the casket. On the other hand, a lawn crypt is much larger and allows for numerous burials in the underground structure.
Installing crypts maximizes the number of burial spaces available.
3. Cremation Burial
Cremation burial is less expensive than a traditional burial. Cremated remains are typically buried in a plot, an urn garden, or placed in a columbarium.
- Burial in a cemetery plot. Cremated remains are smaller than a body. Cemeteries will often allow for more than one set of cremated to be buried in the same plot. In addition, most cemeteries will allow cremated remains to be buried in a grave that already contains a casket.
- Interment in a columbarium. Placing cremains in a columbarium niche is called inurnment. A columbarium can be a free-standing wall located in a cemetery or church. The niches are the spaces in the columbarium. They are for containing the cremated remains of your loved one.
- Buried in an urn garden. The cemetery or other memorial location usually dedicates a specific area for the garden. The urn can be either below or above ground. Urn gardens have beautiful landscaping. The landscaping might have statues, boulders, benches, and even fountains, all designed to hold cremains.
4. Burial at Sea
A funeral director isn’t required for the scattering of cremated remains at sea. However, full-body burials require specific preparation, ensuring the body or coffin sinks quickly. In most states, a licensed funeral director is needed for a full-body burial at sea.
For all rules regarding burial at sea, click here
Traditional vs Non-Traditional Burials
Most of us consider a “traditional burial” the burial of an embalmed body. The body is placed in a casket and vault in a public cemetery. But there is a new alternative, and that is the “non-traditional burial.”
With a traditional burial, you will usually stick to one formula. The advantage of this is the comfort it provides; in keeping with familiar tradition, there can be a lot of peace and security even as your world seems to turn upside down.
What is the cheapest form of burial?
A direct burial is the least expensive burial that a funeral home will offer. Burying the body soon after death; there is no embalming or visitation.
What are the standard dimensions of a grave?
A standard grave is the most common size used for a plot and measures 2.5’ x 8’. While this is the typical size used, most cemeteries have alternative sizes available as well. These usually measure 3’ x 9’ and 4’ x 10’.
When a grave liner or vault is installed, the grave measurements are expanded to 3′-2″ x 9′. If you have an oversized casket, the vault and grave will have to be large enough to accommodate it.
These larger spaces accommodate caskets that surpass standard measurements. Due to the obesity epidemic in the US, larger caskets are needed more often.
Standard cemetery plots are usually 4′ to 6’ deep.
Can you get buried without embalming?
Yes. Embalming is an option, not mandatory. With that being said, embalming is required when you are interred in an indoor mausoleum.
Can you get buried without a casket?
Yes. No law requires you to use a casket for burial or cremation. On the other hand, the cemetery can set its own requirements. Most cemeteries will require a casket.
Can you get buried without a vault?
Yes. But, most cemeteries will require a burial vault or, at minimum, a grave liner.
Can you get buried on your own property?
Being buried on your property is legal in most states. But, please remember, burial laws differ from state to state. You should know what permits you may need. As long as you own the land, you shouldn’t have any trouble obtaining permits.
Planning a funeral service is stressful. The best way to accomplish this is to plan before it is needed. If you plan ahead, you will be able to think clearly and make rational decisions.
Pre-plan your funeral by reading our guide and then getting in touch with a local funeral home. You won’t regret your decision.